Feeling what we Feel, Even if it is HATE
Writing Your "I hate you"Letter/s
There is no healing without feeling.
Healing is on the other side of feeling.
Rebecca Campbell
What inspired me to write this article today is the emotion of โHateโ
Yeah HATE.
I acknowledged my Hate for someone today, or the truth of it is I allowed myself to acknowledge it. Say it and even write this article about it.
Did you reach here with your reading and got surprised?Did you think that healing is not about those emotions too?. To not feel those emotions is bypassing to our healing journey and human experience..
So breathe in.
All emotions are sacred. All of them are important. All of them are to be given care and attention.
We all have the tendency to suppress the difficult emotions because we are so accustomed to being good (or the idea of being good), besides the grief that can be wrapped around them and the anger that is protecting them.
Hate is looked at as negative or bad; but this is something to liberate ourselves from.
Acknowledging Hate is Liberating.
Acknowledging gets to become acceptance and after that something new can emerge for us, inside of us.
What I mean by Inside of us is what is so sensitive and sacred inside of us, our inner space. Or simply eternal love (The Love of Nature and Creation) would have more space to grow inside of us.
To shine through us.
Feeling the feelings/emotions is the only way through. We can act as all is well and justify our states and even justify to whom we feel these difficult emotions!!!
Feeling the emotions, processing them will liberate us and it is opposite of dwelling on the emotion.Dwelling nurtures resentment more than anything else.
If the concept of feeling the emotions is new for you Here is an article to start with.
My healing exercise/practice for you today; get your Journal or an empty paper and write I hate you Letter.
1-Write the name of the person. Dedicate the letter fully to them. Do that as you like.
2-Write why you hate them. All your reasons (Your reasons are valid reasons and enough to consider)
3-What do you want to scream in their face? Anything that is in your head, using any language you feel comfortable with (there is no right and wrong)
4-What hurt did they cause you? This can be hard. Give yourself grace and space.
5-How did this hurt your life? what are the implications you suffered from? Write from your perspective acknowledge it all.
6-Write anything you want to tell them that maybe these 5 questions didnโt cover.
After this practice, pick something to ground you from my mindfulness and meditations.
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Or write in your gratitude journal (if you donโt have one I recommend that you get one) what are you grateful for generally (If you are ready even what are you grateful for the person you wrote the letter for)
Gratitude can ground us and shift us.
You can write as many letters as you need for many people as you need.
You can listen to this Episode and Come do the exercise again.
I Love you.
