What Blocks true intimacy in our life?

Let us try to be more intimate in all of our relationships

Intimacy is important in all of our relationships.Intimacy is the feeling that you can share your thoughts, feelings ideas and being with others and feeling safe doing so. It happens in different levels emotional, physical, mental but most importantly spiritual. 

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I come to experience that Intimacy happens when we see others fully and they see us fully and the relationship is based upon what I love to call“ fullness in the way of seeing”.

What blocks intimacy is seeing others through just one lens and one perception with the label we have for others in our lives or the idea we have about them. 

An example:

You have a friend who is a researcher and math genius: You remember this friend now and all what you have in mind is that this friend is a math genius. You relate everything to her math abilities and thats it. 

But guess what? This friend also rescues animals and volunteers in animal protection programs globally. She raises funds and help big organisations in financing animal welfare. But this is something that you don’t give attention to.

Another friend of yours is a doctor, who is also a world traveller and an activists that goes to all manifestations for human rights. 

One day you need an empathetic friend and you truly need support, you call the doctor thinking that being a doctor and an activist for human rights means they will be able to listen to you. But the call ends and you just feel angry about their lack of support, get where I am going?

You meet the math geek by coincidence and you feel surprised by the empathy she has for you and how attuned she got to your feelings. Suddenly you realise that you have been missing a lot by not developing the relationship deeper with this friend.

This is an example of not seeing a human fully. Just seeing their career or their set of skills and thinking that because of the label of the career or even certain actions they are something and in reality you maybe missing a lot of them by seeing them through the label.

Let us start to exercise seeing others fully.

At least let us explore this idea that people are so much more than what we see in first glance or of the label we give them.