Victimhood: heavy glasses that distort our vision
Are you in active mode? or sleep mode?
Victimhood is a state that many of us in our human race identify with. I am not denying that through our history some groups were victims to other groups in horrible and vicious ways that have given millions if not billions of us the heritage of so much pain and suffering.
Today I am not writing about these specific situations. I am writing about personal “victimhood “or “other victimhood” as a way of seeing and perceiving oneself and others and how it is manifested as an unconscious state of living in our daily lives.
One of the reasons I started writing in my blog is my true desire to convey to all readers the value of living a conscious life. What do I mean by conscious? I mean a life that is based on our active awareness of what we are doing, what we are thinking, and what we are believing and how these become norms that tend to run our lives without even us noticing them. When life is running in automatic “unconscious” “sleep mode”, that is the pill to suffering and lack of happiness.
The danger of victimhood is it becomes like glasses that we see the world through. But these are very interesting glasses, because it is either we are victims or others are the victims. Someone is always a victim. It is a very vicious way of thinking, seeing, and perceiving. It is very important to revise it in ourselves, in an alert way because it runs in the background of our lives and we don’t even recognise it by our conscious mind (the one that we know and control).
Those glasses get to be heavy after that, they distort our vision and for me they tend to diminish us or even worse diminish others with the continuous running assumption that somebody needs NO, OUGHT to be a victim!!
An interesting question that could rise, why? Reasons could be different for anyone of us based on our upbringing, our culture or our traumas; but an important fact: It is human, so we share it as humans, and we have the responsibility to disidentify from it. Why?
It becomes the governance and dictator of our lives. It survives in us by making us victims and others also victims, and it becomes a continuous running loop in our lives, and we would all agree that this is not the best way of living. It becomes the normal way of perceiving life and that is such a dangerous thing, it can lead to many mental health disorders.
What is to disidentify? Identification is like putting layers of material let’s assume it’s like make up, but the kind of makeup that cannot be easily removed and that we wear daily. And disidentification is the process to start to remove those layers and allow the skin to breath. What we allow to breathe when we disidentify from such mental constructs like victimhood? We allow our soul to be. Our authentic expression to be.
How do we disidentify? By starting to be aware, by simply starting to notice and observe which is moving from “sleep mode” to “active mode”.
Please feel free to write me any questions you have if any arises after reading, I am writing it for you anyways :-)
Much Love...
Mona