Victimhood is a state that many of us in our human race identify with.
I am not denying that through our history some groups were victims to other groups in horrible and vicious ways that have given millions if not billions of us the heritage of so much pain and suffering.
Today I am not writing about these specific situations. I am writing about personal “victimhood “or “other victimhood” as a way of seeing and perceiving oneself and others and how it is manifested as an unconscious state of living in our daily lives.
One of the reasons I started writing is my true desire to convey to all my readers the value of living a conscious life, which is the healing life or what I always say of making our life a healing journey.
What do I mean by conscious?
I mean a life that is based on our active awareness of what we are doing, what we are thinking, and what we are believing and how these become norms that tend to run our lives without even us noticing them.
When life is running in automatic “unconscious” “sleep mode”, that is the pill to suffering and lack of happiness.
The danger of victimhood is it becomes like glasses that we see the world through. But these are very interesting glasses, because they filter an image of life in two ways either we are victims or others are the victims. Someone is always a victim through these glasses.
It is a very vicious way of thinking, seeing, and perceiving. It is very important to revise it in ourselves, in an alert way because it runs in the background of our lives and we don’t even recognise it by our conscious mind (the one that we know and control).
These glasses get to be heavy after that, they distort our vision and for me they tend to diminish us or even worse diminish others with the continuous running assumption that somebody needs NO, OUGHT to be a victim!!
An interesting question that could arise now is, why? Reasons could be different for anyone of us based on our upbringing, our culture or our traumas; but an important fact: It is human, so we share it as humans, and we have the responsibility to disidentify from it.
Another Why?
It becomes the governance and dictator of our lives. It survives in us by making us victims and others also victims, and it becomes a continuous running loop in our lives, and we would all agree that this is not the best way of living. It becomes the normal way of perceiving life and that is such a dangerous thing, it can lead to huge separation inside us that prevents us from living the life we aspire to live.
Journal about this:
Do I wear victimhood glasses?
In what areas in my life do I wear them?
What is this situation giving me?
What feelings?
Again, what feelings?
Write and write.
And repeat this as needed.
