Grieving old loves fully
What did old love relationships meant to you?
So, you broke up with somebody seven years ago (In my case I put these seven years it could be anything more than that or less).You have entered several relationships after that, but you still didn’t find the one. You still didn’t find satisfaction in a relationship?
Maybe you are in a great relationship even and you think you are truly with the right person, but something is not quite right as you would love it to be, or you just keep remembering that person from time to time, who have broken your heart.
*Please know that heart break heals gradually, little by little, so if you are in this now you are not alone*
Today I have realised something totally knew to me in grieving our old love relationships.
In this love that ended seven years ago I found out today that I didn’t grieve fully what was this guy (in my case he was a man) to me.
I did not grieve losing my friend. I didn’t grieve losing the person who knew very deep spiritual parts of me .I didn’t grieve very important parts of what was the relationship.
*Heart break is one of the most painful experiences we can pass through, so don’t underestimate it if you are passing through it*
Of course, I am over him since so long ago, as a partner or as someone whom I thought was the love of my life, he failed me, most probably I failed him too, it hurt us so much and we moved on. I grieved that pain of losing love and I was able to find love after that several times, but I didn’t grieve parts of the relationship that I think to me were very important even more important than the romantic part and by somehow, I blocked them from my life in other relationships, could be because they were what hurt me the most about the loss.
*Problem is the following, the pain we hold blocks the entrance of those specific experiences we want. Could be lovely if you read about laws of the universe*
We as humans connect to each other in very deep levels and sometimes we label each other with one name, for example ex-lovers were also friends and sometimes even family. Ex friends they were brothers and sisters and life companions. Mothers are the primary source of love and also our role models as children.
Sometimes we grieve the main label and forget the rest.
My invitation to all of us today is to try to the best possibilities we can to grieve fully our past relationships, in the fullness of what those relationships were to us.
It could be very liberating.
Much love.