Emotional awareness 1.2

How are you getting your needs met?

Are you getting your needs met directly? meaning through direct communication accompanied by clarity and honesty?

Or are you getting it through manipulation?

Do not get me wrong..

I know you are a good hearted human and of course you don’t mean harm and you do not manipulate people intentionally.

But..

Again: Are you manipulating?

What do I mean by that?

I mean are you getting your needs met in indirect ways. What are those indirect ways?

Some Examples:

1-Passivity: blaming, shaming

Unfortunately this is a huge part of our culture now. This is how people learned to achieve goals, to advance in life and to do things actually even with close people (including family:where we learned that in the first place)

2-Attached imagined Expectation

Expecting from others based on our relationship with them (normally also close circles)

Those are the imagine expectations: Because she is my friend, she will do me this (in your head you decided that)

Because He is my dad he is obliged to do me…this (only in your head)

This is similar to un healthy entitlement.

3-Punishment silence

We are ALL guilty of this one (hahahah) This is when we just stay silent in an aggressive way deciding that the silence (and the anger covered by it) will solve our issue.

So are you getting your needs met directly through direct communication or are you manipulating?